To reach for something specific is a great reason for action, but there are times when your present situation calls for action before it’s clear to you where a better place or what a better goal might be.
What do you do when you must go without a map? You go tentatively, even clumsily. Create a future, and remember that creativity is the opposite of neat: go make some complicated wonderful pregnant mess from which a better future for yourself will emerge. I say action without grace is infinitely preferable to looking really good in a static situation from which you should remove yourself, closer to death every day without a trace.
Once you leave adolescence, no one outside of your family and close friends really cares what you do. This may sound bleak, but it removes a motivational phantom from your life if you internalize it: should you allow the superficial and inaccurate ideas of you (that may or may not exist in the minds of other people) to become part of your own (set of) priorities? We can never know or directly affect how we appear in the others’ heads, but it is clear that it can become an infinite time sink for petty, insecure people. Resolve to leave it for the teenage girls.
On the other hand, those close to you will want whatever is best for you. They may be part of your meta-debate about Whatodo, and certainly disagree with you at times about directions you choose, but in the end, grownups can’t hold the considered moves of people they care about against them, even if they do disagree.
So, feel free to reach. And reach.
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